The Clarity Quest

Hi dear!

Glad to have you here reading again

I am also currently in the process of merging two of my Instagram accounts and initially when I created the first one, I thought it was a great idea to open up the other IG account for my blog. However with more knowledge, taking one step at a time and talking to an expert, I decided that it was better to “consolidate my thoughts” on one page. Now I am sharing this to say that sometimes (maybe a lot of times), I am figuring it out too and Oh boy is that hard? Especially for a person like me who wants to know what is at the end before I even start.

This leads me to the question – are there times you have felt confused and very unsure about the next steps to take especially when you seem to have a rough idea but it’s not coming together? If yes, here are a few things that might help you deal with your mindset as you go on your clarity quest.

1. It’s okay to not have it all figured out – Is it really? Actually it is. Taking the biblical example of Moses, I don’t think Moses had it all figured out when he started leading the Israelites. He knew it was about deliverance and freedom from the Egyptians but knowing that there was a red sea to be parted from the very beginning, I think not. This is interesting because sometimes we beat ourselves up and in reality, there is certainty with knowing all the details but over and over again we see everyday examples of prominent people that didn’t really know all the details before taking the first step. Here I am giving a note to myself – it’s okay to not have it all figured out.

2. Progress over Perfection – You might want to get it all right 100% the first time you venture into something. As you start out on this journey, understand that progress is more important than perfection. There is really no ideal time. With progress, you realize there is room for improvement and that you are also human. If it is already perfect, then we won’t be expecting an update from you in an ever changing world.

3. You are not created to be in the dark: You look through God’s word and you see that at various times He showed up to let the people he was leading, know what was up next. God cares to show you (and me) too. One of the mindset we can have that leave feeling very confused is that God does not want to answer but scripture mentions that;

But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,

Nor have entered into the heart of man

The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God.

1 cor 2 vs 9-10 KJV

Go with this mindset instead as you pray for clarity.

4. Address Fear – Sometimes we really know what to do but are afraid to go ahead and so we out in other the guise of I am just unsure what to do. Acknowledge the fear. Write it out if possible. I heard Imisi Owolabi call it name it to tame it. Now that we know the problem is fear, you have to reframe it (check previous posts). For context, you can say or write -I am afraid of what xyz will say if I do this, then think about what abc will say if it helps them. I am afraid of the layers that will peel off as I submit to God dealing with my character, and showing me to me. Think about how the right character will be helpful for the bright future before you. I wish this a one-time fix all exercise but it’s not. You keep at it.

5. The rounded stairs analogy – At the bottom of the stairs, it is hard to see where the very top/ destination is but as you proceed, going up the steps one at a time, the whole view becomes clearer and you can see where the stairs stop. This goes to say that clarity a lot of times comes with the motion. The rough idea you have is the best starting point. As you act on the little, the next steps to take start to show up.

I hope some or all of these words have helped?

Next time, I will talk on more actionable steps towards clarity.

Enjoy the rest of your week.

Temiloluwa

P.s: I am still undecided about a weekly post day but I am leaning towards Thursday afternoon or Saturday morning. Over the next couple weeks, I would put both days to trial and see how it goes.

You should also check out the contents on Candid me! – Learning. Unlearning. Relearning (ifyroberts.com) and Tomi Oyegoke – Medium. Really good!